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The grass isn’t always greener…..

I went back to my hairdresser last week. I’ve been seeing him for quite a while now, I like J and J knows what I like.  However there have been times when I’ve wanted something different. ‘Try mine’, an acquaintance said, ‘she’s really good’.  I loved the coffee I was offered, the chair that massaged your back while you get your hair washed, the head massage, the huge mirrors on the wall and looking at hairstyles on her iPad.  So very up to date.  Trouble was she charged like a wounded bull and didn’t listen to a word I said.  Not the end of the world I told myself, it’ll grow. Weeks later when it was time for a trim (and I was too chicken to go back to my ‘man’) I heard someone at the pool raving on about a girl in another place.  She ‘rents’ a chair in one of those walk in shops, full service but no appointment needed. Well, as I just said, I certainly couldn’t go back to my ‘man’ looking the way I did so I gave her a try. Explained I wanted my fringe trimmed and could she remove some of the straggly layers at the back so I could then start the growing one length process again.  Clip, clip, clip, not a word was spoken until I heard, ‘Oh that’s looking much better’ as the cape was whisked off, the chair was swivelled round and there she was asking how I wanted to pay.   No wonder she was cheap, 10 minutes top, I felt like I’d been on a conveyor belt lol So last week I was driving past a familiar place and took a punt, opened the shop door hoping he had a spare spot without having to wait too long.  Only one client there, ‘Cathy, how are you?  Come on in, you’re lucky I just had a cancellation.  Give me five minutes.’  No questions asked, just accepted me as I was.  J often says there are many ways to cut and style a bob – he just has to find the one to suit you and your hair and stick with it.   Yes, I heard another story about J’s Italian grandfather and the barber’s chairs that line one side of the shop but best of all I look and feel a lot better 🙂 I think the same thing happens with blogging – we know what we like and enjoy, yet often feel there is more out there just waiting to be explored.  Trouble is we take time away from what we enjoy and end up in mess.  Lets just say that some of the blogs I ‘found’ during my recent wanders didn’t really keep me engrossed that much after all.  So I will be visiting many of my previous ‘favourites’ on a much more regular basis, acknowledging my visitors and finding a way to overcome the ‘too hard to comment’ problem on some platforms. green grass

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46 thoughts on “The grass isn’t always greener…..”

  1. I am also a fan of the bob and I have a regular “girl”.
    I, too, sometimes get distracted away from what I like but, these days, not so often.

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    1. Love your expression – regular girl! Makes me think of an allbran ad :). We do get to put our claim on certain people who serve us don’t we.

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  2. I think we’ve all been in that boat. I’ve clicked the ‘unfollow’ button many a time and I now always ensure that I support those who support me. Then, if I have any spare time left, I’ll visit some new blogs.

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      1. I’ve encountered what I call ‘One Way Bloggers’. These are bloggers who will follow you in the hope that you will follow them back. You visit their blog and read, like, and comment on posts. You will even share some of their posts on social media. Trouble is that they never seem to come back and visit you. I’m never sure why somebody would follow a blog to never go and visit it again. If I follow a blog I will either visit it and try and engage with the author or, if I find I don’t after all find the blog interesting, then I’ll press the unfollow button.

        I know during my first year of blogging I wanted to gain as many followers as I could, but I like to engage with those followers and try and support as many of them as I can by returning the favour and visiting their blogs.

        I’ll get off my soap box now Cathy 🙂

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  3. When i wasn’t too well late last year I thought I’d hunt out some other blogs to read…but none of them ‘fit’ with me….so I’m with the old favourites still.
    There are a couple on Blogger which I no longer want to follow…but can I get rid of them? No!

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    1. I think that’s the right decription of enjoying what someone writes – it fits. Even tho’ I’m up to looking at and considering new ideas there’s so much in life these days that doesn’t fit my way of thinking. Not set in my ways – just know what I like and enjoy

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  4. I guess you know not to ‘wander’ any more, eh? I have trouble with haircuts, the stylist looks at me upon entering and thinks, “I’ll give her a #3” and then proceeds to ignore anything you say.
    Yeah, some people change, there blogs change, it happens. No need to feel as if you,re getting married or anything…

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  5. Ah, the old hairdresser thing. Worse if you run into them in the street and it is obvious someone else has done your hair. I still have to remind myself to not feel guilty for dumping the chemist across the road in favour of Chemist Warehouse.

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    1. I use C/W for our keep us alive and happy vitamins etc but use the local (I was going to say Amcal but they’ve been gone for years) chemist for the regular monthly runs.

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  6. I left my former hairdresser (despite his being a brilliant cutter) when he poo-pooed my suggestion of not painting thick colour on my hair but just having a few foils and let the grey show a bit. I described it as ‘going grey gracefully’…but he wouldn’t have it! He charged a ‘Queen St salon price’ in the suburbs…so I left. My new hairdresser is the mother of a former student, is letting me go grey gracefully, cuts so my hair stays neat, and gives me ‘mates rates’. Lol. On the other topic you wrote about, I joined in the Grow Your Own Blog party this year…the people who became followers after that, have all ‘jumped ship’ and stopped following me I think and I didn’t really bond with many I chose to follow either! Lol

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  7. HairDressers. I have been traumatised by a few. I very rarely go to them now. I grown my hair very long and trim my own fringe. My sister has now become a hairdresser. And a year ago I went along as a model. Well a few weeks back she asked if I needed a haircut so I got one. She did a very nice job. She was shocked that it Was a whole year since I’d last cut my hair and has made me promise not to wait as long. But I don’t know. It all seems like such a waste of time when I can do it on my own. Once a year trim is okie dokie with me lol

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  8. Oh yes yes yes to this. I think there is so much advice out there always pushing change. But sometimes staying the same is not just okay; it’s actually better.

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    1. There is a time and a place for change isn’t there Mel – unfortunately I often get hurt or misunderstood if that’s what I want. Trouble is we don’t want to be stuck in a rut or left behind.

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  9. I am with you on both points: Hairdressers and blog reading. My first hairdresser here in Northern Ireland happily cut my hair for fifteen years then announced she was retiring. I spentthe next six weeks looking at the hair of all the women I knew, finally I asked one who had a style like mine where she had her hair cut, I went along and Stewart and I had a great relationship until about two years ago – he cut and bantered and teased. I once had the mood for a change of style, He said to me “I will cut it that way, but you will not like it!” I persisted and apparently he saw me walk up the street and said to himself ” She will be in to me before the week is over.” I was. I never doubted him again. Alas he moved and I have spent the last two years searching for someone to match either of the first two.

    With regard to blogging and commenting, I have always said that comments are the readybrek of blogging and we should show respect by nurturing those who take the time to visit. My tastes in blog reading, have changed over the years and several of the early followers have moved to twitter and facebook, Now most of those regular visitors are closer in age to me. I am hoping that after eye surgery, I get back to more regular blogging.

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  10. I so tuned in to your post today Cathy. Now I have a problem with my hair, never the easiest of hair to deal with and to be honest I haven’t the time or inclination to “faff” with it, short and easy I prefer. Well a friend, who was a hairdresser, has been cutting it, but it is a bit hit and miss, sometimes good, but mostly not so good. How I would love to find a good man or woman to regularly trim me up. Problem is how do I stop going to my friend (I do pay her mates rates) without hurting her feelings…
    As for the blogging Community, I have a small band of regulars and we have some great conversations. I find many “Newbie” bloggers go around putting likes and follows with no intention of actually connecting with you. So I just go along to look at any one that takes the time to put more than a cursory “good” on my posts and if I like their content and it ticks my interests I’ll genuinely comment on their post. Incidentally I find most of the ones in my “core” community are about the same age as me…

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    1. Oh that’s a worse problem than I had Pauline – maybe talk about different ‘styles’ one day and see how she reacts.. Or ask if she’d ever considered updating her skills or maybe notbecause you never know what your next trim will look like lol
      This new ‘like’ phenomenon gets me – if you can’t think of anything to say then don’t. I’m not going to be offended….well no more than I am when I see ‘like’. Oh dear I think I did that to Jack recently, will definitely talk to him next post 🙂

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      1. I look back at my old posts circa 2009 – 2012 and hardly got any likes or comments, not so many blogging back then, also my posts were not very interesting just a couple of photos and a few sentences. But now the “happiness engineers” at WP have been encouraging newbies to go around “liking” other posts ( I sometimes think it is irrespective of whether they have actually read the post!!!) to build their community…

        I’m on my soapbox Cathy!!!!

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  11. I cut my own hair so I usually just go with whatever I’ve done which doesn’t always look great, buuuut… thank goodness, it grows back.

    As for blogs, I have a hard enough time keeping up with my regular blogging buddies, but every so often if I have the time, I like to check out what else is out there. Every so often I discover another gem and they become part of my little blogging community. A lot just go by the wayside though.

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  12. Being a black woman, I have spent an inordinate money on my hair. Oh, the tales I could tell of the hairdressers I have known. They haunt me still. My favourite hairdressers – no joke- either die, get so sick they quit working or charge too much. Finding a good hairdresser is like finding a jewel, isn’t it?

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  13. ha, I admire you for being so adventurous with your haircuts. I always go back to the same salon, and usually the same cutter, if I like what they do and remember the name (which I don’t always). But I do sometimes ask for something different from the person I trust. As for blogs, I always try to return comments and if someone is being a consistent reader, I’ll usually follow them.

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    1. Maybe ask for a card with her name next time – saves the embarrassment of trying to describe her if you ring for an appointment :). The hair usually ‘returns’ to the same style after a while – until I get fed up with it lol

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  14. I was devastated when my hairdresser of many years left. I hate hairdressers that think they know better than you do. Actually, my current cut is quite good, and I got it just walking in off the street and getting a cheap and quick cut! But I can’t go back there – and I’m trying to find a new place. Sigh.

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    1. Oh dear Mali – life can be cruel at times can’t it lol. Is there a reason you can’t go back to the walk in salon? I’m sure someone who pleases you will turn up soon

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