Oh dear – Oh dear
The things you hear that maybe you shouldn’t have heard
Particularly when it’s spoken between friends in a place like this
Particularly when a friend of the person being spoken about
is not visible 🙂
It was difficult (for me) when I returned to our table after they left 😦
Not sure I will be able to trust the other two again 😦
Have you ever experienced this and what did you do or not do about it?
Linked to Microblog Monday hosted by Mel
Still Waters 
It would hurt my feelings but maybe I would be cautious around this person. A good friend does not hurt another friend. Even though you were not meant to hear it I would not want that person talking about me that way. If they do it to one they will do it on anyone.
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Oh dear. Pleased to say I have never been in this situation but where I have a lot of multilingual friends they often tell me what people are saying when they dont expect to be understood. Maybe we should all speak as though we don’t know who our audience is. And if they were being mean I would tell them off to their faces straight away.
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I am with Germaine. If they do it to one, anyone is a potential target.
I would like to think that I am brave enough to speak up, but suspect that I would often chicken out. And be wary around them forever after.
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This reminds me of an overheard telephone conversation many moons ago. Back then in Ireland when you lifted the phone to make a call, you might land up on a crossed line. This day their were two ‘ladies’ bitching about someone called Joan. The pair chatting kept addressing each other by name (let us say they were Pat & Mary). Wanting to make my own call, I coughed, and said that Joan was my friend and I was about to meet her that day and would have great pleasure in telling her what Pat & Mary had said on the phone. Needless the call ended abruptly and I was able to make my call. The laugh was, I did not know Pat, Mary or Joan!
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No, I haven’t experienced it. One thing for sure, if people are always complaining or being critical of people you mutually know, they will do the same to you. Good story from Grannymar.
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Cracking up over Grannymar’s story.
It would give me pause with the people because if they were complaining about someone else (and then kind to her face), they would likely be two-faced with me. It’s a loss of trust.
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I am so sorry to read that you had this experience in the first place. I am certain that kind of relationship would cool after overhearing gossip. Not only did they not care that you overheard. They didn’t care that anyone else overhears, either. I would have no trust after that. Loved Grannymar’s story too.
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wow, I would be shaken up too!
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Sorry that happened, I can imagine feeling extremely uncomfortable after that.
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Gossip is good. Don’t share it, just become informed by it. I was always the last to hear anything, especially office gossip. My boss used to start rumors, just to see who bit!
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😦 Unfortunate all around. I would definitely feel put off with those people after hearing them. Not sure if I would be able to say something to them or not. I guess it would depend on what exactly was said.
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Some girls don’t grow up out of Year 9.
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An awful experience indeed Cathy but, on the other hand, count yourself lucky that you now know those two women’s characters (untrustworthy). If it were me, I’d have no problem with letting them know I heard. Why bother keeping up a pretence of friendship when you know it was never really there in the first place… as Germaine says, if they do it to one they’ll do it to others. A true test of a friend is if you feel you could confide in them… no way with those two!
Way to go Grannymar!!
Cheers now :D)
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Oh no that is awful, this has not happened to me but if it did I would not trust those people again,true friends would not do that.I would also feel very awkward about seeing them again and I would be very tempted to tell them what I had heard but that is just me.
Dawn
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